Borderline Personality Disorder

Intense love. Inappropriate rage. Intense hatred. Many of us experience these feelings from time to time. Now, imagine what it feels like to have all these concentrated emotions in a given day. This emotional roller coaster is characteristic of someone who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

Individuals with borderline personality disorder experience strong emotions that flare up and diminish quite rapidly, often within hours. Since they don’t always understand the source of their feelings, they get little or no sympathy from the people around them. Many times, individuals with borderline personality disorder say that they “wear a mask” as they go through their daily lives.

If you experience frequent mood swings that last for only a few hours or days, feel a profound sense of emptiness, and fear abandonment by those you love, you might be experiencing the symptoms of borderline personality disorder.

Mood swings, instability of relationships, difficulties with long-term planning and impulse control and problems with self identity are common in individuals with this diagnosis. One of the key symptoms is an obsessive fear of abandonment—desperately wanting close relationships while simultaneously pushing people away with impulsive, irrational behavior.

Women have a higher incidence of borderline personality disorder than men and often require hospitalization because of the severity of their symptoms. Individuals diagnosed with borderline personality disorder have an elevated incidence of harming themselves through self mutilation (i.e. cutting, burning) and suicidal gestures. However, the suicidal gestures are not always carried out in an effort to kill themselves, rather to cause self-injury.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, about 2 percent of adults are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and account for about 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations. Because of the extreme mood swings and impulsive behaviors, borderline personality disorder is a serious illness that needs long-term intervention. These individuals experience chronic feelings of emptiness and between 8%-10% of individuals successfully commit suicide.

Individuals who are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder have symptoms that can be identified with the mnemonic PRAISE:

Paranoid ideas
Relationship instability
Abandonment fears, angry outbursts, affective instability
Identity disturbance, impulsive behavior
Suicidal behavior

Because of the severe ups and downs in emotions and impulsive behaviors, individuals with borderline personality disorder may say things like “I feel like I’m losing my mind” or

“I’m so misunderstood.” People diagnosed with borderline personality disorder are often perceived as emotionally unstable from those who know them and have difficulties maintaining jobs, completing their education, or experiencing fulfilling relationships.

Below is a list of some of the common signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder:

Obsessive abandonment issues
Feeling misunderstood
Suicidal gestures
Physical altercations
Suicidal threats
Emotionally overly reactive
Self-mutilating behaviors
Impulsive behavior
Affective instability
Impulsive, unprotected sex
Broken marriages

Chronic feelings of emptiness
Inappropriate angry outbursts
Difficulty controlling emotions
Loss of reality
Binge eating
Impulsive spending
Low self esteem
Reckless driving
Repeated job losses

(Because these symptoms in and of themselves do not always indicate the presence of borderline personality disorder, please contact your physician or mental health treatment provider in order to obtain an accurate diagnosis.)

Fortunately, borderline personality disorder can be successfully treated and in fact, recent research shows that the prognosis over time is much better than previously assumed but treatment must be long term within a consistent, empathetic but firm therapeutic frame. Patients diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, benefit best from a combination of the following treatments:

Behavioral Therapy to change unproductive behaviors and learn appropriate coping skills

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy to help with mood dysregulation and to acquire mindfulness, acceptance and interpersonal skills in a validating environment. Read More

Metallization Therapy to help individuals develop a sense of how others process thoughts, feelings and frustrations of daily life.

Cognitive Therapy to change unproductive thinking patterns by sorting out unrealistic thoughts

Family Therapy to help family members who are affected by their loved one’s behaviors

Relaxation Techniques to relieve stress and to diminish the physical symptoms of anxiety

Group Therapy to gain new insight from others who have had similar experiences

Medications to address prominent symptoms like mood instability, depression or cognitive distortions

If you suspect that you or a loved one may be experiencing symptoms of borderline personality disorder, please contact a professional mental health professional for appropriate diagnosis and treatment.

Behavior therapy and skills training at The Meehl House are combined with strategies for protecting, strengthening and caring for the body and providing resources to helping a resident cultivate a stronger sense of the value of spiritual strength.The Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment Center Colorado also provides an atmosphere of continuous support from fellow residents, family visitors and the founders of The Meehl Foundation, Mark and Debra Meehl, DD, MSW, who live at The Meehl House.

Benefits of a Detox Retreat

Do you feel that you could be happier, look younger and don’t live your life to your full potential? If the latter then you may consider going to a detox retreat!

What is a detox retreat?

A detox retreat is a place where you can fast and cleanse your body of physical and emotional toxins that accumulates from modern stressful lifestyles. You can opt for a 4, 7 or 10 program where you will eat limited food and have colonic irrigation treatments on a daily basis. A good retreat will also provide yoga classes, daily massages, a fasting consultation, a fasting guide and notes, and other relaxing and enjoyable activities like walking or fitness classes.

Detox retreats have become increasingly popular and you will find them all over the world.

Why do I need to fast?

Today’s life is fast, with fast food made for immediate consumption, vegetables that contain pesticides and meat that contains many preservatives or is injected with antibiotics. Processed food is also loaded with saturated fat, sugar and salt. If you combine the over consumption of these with stress and the pace we live at, it is no wonder that toxins accumulate in the body and often makes us fat.

When the body is overwhelmed by these excess toxins they bypass the elimination channels and are directly stored in fatty tissues under the skin, to prevent them from entering the blood stream. As toxins continue to build up, new cell formation is disrupted and your immune system is weakened.

By fasting or drastically restricting the amount of calories eaten even for a short time – you can rest your digestive system and cleanse your elimination channels. If you have excess weight it will help you to lose this weight fast.

How will I cope with the fasting?

You may be surprised at how easy it can be. Many people don’t experience any hunger at all as they just feel so much better. You will still drink a lot of water and will be provided with all necessary nutrients through herbs and special drinks. Most good retreats will also provide good supervision through experienced staff. The beauty of a detox retreat is that fasting is combined with activities like yoga, massage or even dancing so the whole process can be fun and relaxing.

In summary what are the benefits of visiting a detox retreat:

– You will lose weight fast and safely
– It will strengthen the immune system
– It can help with insomnia
– It can clear congestion and improve functioning of the digestive tract
– It helps reducing chronic ailments like asthma and colitis
– It helps with anti-aging
– It improves skin condition and results in a radiant complexion
– It increases energy and general gest for life
– It may get you off junk food!
– It will help you to lead a healthier and more balanced life.